Is it possible to fall in love with the same person again?

I've been with my girlfriend for the past year, and for the last 3 months, we've been making plans to get married.





However, for the past last 2 weeks she's been snapping at me for the least little thing, slamming doors, or going for several hours without speaking to me with no explanation. This morning we were in bed, and I put my arms around her. She roughly grabbed my arms and threw them off of her like I was some random guy in a bar she didn't know!





After she went to work, I called in sick to work, and then started packing my things to leave with the full intention of being gone by the time she came back home. Just as I had everything in my car ready to go, I got a delivery of flowers with a letter apologizing, saying she was having issues with her family she didn't want to discuss, and that she feels bad for taking it out on me.





Honestly, after the past 2 weeks of her nasty attitude, I don't want to stay, but something tells me I should. What's the right thing to do?

Is it possible to fall in love with the same person again?
Okay - well, first of all, if you two are going to get married, the first thing your lady is going to have to get over is this whole "not communicating" thing. One of the key elements in a successful marrige is being able to communicate. If one or the other partners can't communicate - it is doomed from the start. This goes for ANYTHING - be it family issues, personal issues or whatever the case may be - you MUST be able to talk about ANYTHING with your spouse. THe flowers were a great sentiment - but they can't be allowed to cloud the issue - she has to sit and talk with you about what is bothering her. As far as you are concerned, you have to show that you are open to what is bothering her - tell her it's okay to open up to you, and that you will be there for her - regardless of what the issue is. When people are hurting - they can be nasty, that is just our nature - you my friend must be willing to put up with it if you really lover her.


So let's talk about your actions in this situation - (not trying to be a jerk here.....just being honest). So you waited until she left to pack your stuff up and leave???? Is this giving her a fair shake? Do you really love her? If you do - even though you are mad - you can't leave like that. You have to sit down and tell her that you are unhappy with the way she is handling this issue - and if you are going to get married - leaving you "in the dark" and lashing out at you - is not acceptable. You have to "work" at being a good communicator. Both of you did really poorly at it this time. So work at it - and don't run off if you really love her. But at the same time, she needs to feel confident enough in you to open up to you - make her sit ther until she spills the beans about what is bothering her. If she refuses - then tell her that you are leaving - and when she can come to terms with the fact that you will be there for her - when SHE is ready to open up - to give you a call.
Reply:if you truly love her then you can work it out. by the sounds of it she is stressed and you are getting most of her frustration don't take it personally. if you are planning on getting married you need to realize that you are going to fight at some point. so you might as well learn how to deal with her stress. if you can't then maybe you are just not ready to get married to anyone.
Reply:I would take it slow and would pause the wedding discussions. She needs to be able to talk to you about these family issues- its unfair of her to treat you that way regardless- but maybe if you knew what was going on you could at least understand why she is so moody.





Bottom line- if you can't communicate as a couple and be able to lean on one another when the "stuff" hits the fan...you don't have much of a foundation.





Good luck!
Reply:she could be having some hard troubles with her family and may not be comfortable talking about them with you. just talk to her and let her know how you feel about her doing you this way alot of people have different ways of showing their feelings, for example by bf doesn't express his feelings to me at all but i know he loves me. talk to her and see whats going on and see if she will let you in and talk to you
Reply:We go through phases in life. Maybe she is a bit scared to get married. I was in the same position. Telling everyone i'm ready and happy, but deep inside i was scared and fighting with my bf everyday. I almost lost him because of this, i think you should stay a little longer. Maybe things will change.
Reply:....some calm direct face to face talk and some good counseling together would be a good place to start anyways.....otherwise the misunderstandings of this uncomfortable situation might continue unintentionally..........and you already know how YOU feel about stuff partner.......what about HER emotional feelings though?


You gotta be tough to stick it out for some good luvin partner.........and quitters simply never prosper.....agreed?


Good luck my friend......and walk softly with this one...COOL?
Reply:if you really are in love with her, you'll stay...you'll love her most at her worst, because those are the times she really needs you even if she seems she doesn't.good luck, man!
Reply:if you were planning on getting married then obviously you love her. stay with her


GOOD LUCK
Reply:X the right thing to do is talk to her about it and let her know that you are there for her if she needs help. I'm going to tell you this about relationships, they are not going to be a bed of roses every time but when the times get hard, you both got to have a good foundation so you can whether the storms.





You still love her and you were upset that she was taking out something on you for no good reason. She apologized and sent you some flowers so I think she was thinking of what she did to you. Sit down with her and tell her how she made you feel.
Reply:Unfortunately, she didn't handle the situation with her family very well. Instead of discussing it with you, getting your opinions or at least your support, she's kept it inside and taken it out on you. I know that your feelings have been hurt and I don't condone her actions, but I believe you need to discuss what's been going on the past few weeks. Ask her what's going on with her family, let her open up. I don't believe that we should abuse or misuse the people we're in a relationship with, however, sometimes that's what happens with the people who are closest to us.





Let her know that you've been feelings things are strained between the two of you and didn't know it was due to her family. Also let her know that you are always available to talk to her when she's having problems. You're going to be a united team and what affects her, affects you.





I believe, two wrongs don't make a right by you leaving although I know it must have gotten to be too much. There are obvious communication issues that need to be worked out between the two of you before you get married.





With love, there has to be forgiveness. Sometimes that's the greatest and most precious gift you could give to someone you love.